HOW WE LOOK

We do everything to maintain how we look. So much resource, money is forked out on the way we look, trying to make our outlook perfect hoping by so doing we are making who we are perfect which in reality is absolute baloney because your outlook and who you are, are two separate discussions. Living in a world where people get to judge, select who they want to be with or marry by the outlook has led us to indoctrinate the belief of our outlook being so much relevant that for most, it has become their ultimate goal in life. I am not in any way trying to tag maintaining outlook to be a bad thing but when it is emphasized on more in our life, it becomes the thing that stops us from really concentrating on developing who we are. The truth of the matter is everyone tries to have a good outlook but those who are found chasing their dreams do not put so much emphasis on their outlook because they are busy developing who they are. Your outlook will not realize your dream, who you are will. If you are lazy but look hardworking, it does not mean that you will be productive, if you are proud or arrogant but you look beautiful, it does not mean you will find love. The most important thing is who you are because at the end of the day everyone is trying to get to know you which they do through relationships or communications. The more someone begins to know who you are, the more how you are or look begins to alter. The ravishing lady you fell in love with, the more you get to know that she is not what you think, the less your love for her becomes and the less of the beauty you see because the outlook gives us a thought of who you are and we validate that through the reality of who you are. When your outlook is not the real image of who you are, you find people pulling out from your life when they get to know you because in a way you are phoney. Many phoney people we meet because they look better than they really are, it is therefore wise not to judge people by how they look. 

   The emphasis laid on outlook makes us aware of our imperfections and so we become master at fixing them because the public side to us is our outlook and if we do not appear perfect publicly, it steals away our inner happiness, stops the man of our dream from living in our reality, dissuades us from having friends or someone loving us. We are so much deep in a thought that a best outlook gives us the best life and that we cannot escape from it  makes it the truth our life stands under.  This thought perpetuates from generations to generations and the ones who cannot get to fix their imperfections are trapped in loneliness because no one loves to befriend a handicapped lady or physically disabled man. Now I understand the reason why outlook is so much important, it is because we do not want to be alone or be without love or without friends or have people think of us as a weakling or low life individual that we hide this reasons behind a better outlook and because some of us we know who we are cannot get what we want and so we think by making ourselves look better we can get what we want and some do not even know who they are outside how they are or look and this makes them so focused on outlook because they belief making how they look better, makes who they are better. Your identity is not in how you look because I can never really know who you are by looking at you, I will only have that knowledge of you by the person I relate with outside of your outlook. One of the reasons why relationship ends up in a break up or marriage in divorce is because we give our love to the outlook of a person and so when the who of a person is not as his or her outlook, our love disappears. Love has become a feeling that is meant for the perfect side of someone and we made it this way because we are busy trying to be perfect that we hide our imperfections and so we fall in love because of the perfection we see, that’s why the ones who are physical impaired are not really loved and marriages begins to fall apart when imperfections in who we are sets in which should not be so because love is meant for our imperfections. When someone loves your imperfection, you become free to be yourself and nothing you do wrong will cause you to be hated or despised. So much concentration on outlook hides who we are and our imperfection from being seen and when we do not show our imperfections and vulnerabilities, we narrow the chances for us finding true love.  

   Developing who you are is more important to life because you live better when you become a better you and who you are have the power to change how you look from bad to good once they get to know you are not how you look.